Why Things Fall Apart Before They Align

If you’ve been doing the inner work, the mindset shifts, the healing, the Law of Attraction practices - and instead of life coming together it feels like things are falling apart, this conversation is for you.

There’s a stage on the manifestation journey that rarely gets talked about. It’s the part where you’ve become more aware, more conscious, more intentional… and yet life feels messier than ever. Plans stall. Relationships feel strained. Work no longer fits the way it used to. Your nervous system feels stretched, and you start quietly wondering whether you’ve misunderstood something along the way.

This is often the point where people assume they’ve hit a manifestation block.

But what if that’s not what’s happening at all?

In my work as a manifestation coach, I see this phase again and again, not as a sign that someone is failing, but as a sign that something deeper is recalibrating. Manifestation isn’t always a neat “ask and receive” process. More often, it works like an intelligent system that clears what no longer fits before bringing in what does.

That clearing can feel uncomfortable. Even exhausting.

Sometimes it shows up as everyday frustration, wanting to manifest a new job, home, or lifestyle upgrade that just doesn’t unfold the way you expected. Other times, it’s much more disruptive. A relationship ends. Work changes suddenly. A door closes without warning. Those moments don’t just challenge your plans, they can shake your sense of safety, identity, and meaning.

This is where the real work begins.

When things fall apart, it’s very easy to internalise what’s happening. To make it mean something about you. That you’re not good enough. That other people are more blessed. That you’ve somehow lost your way. Without realising it, people start reinforcing the very belief patterns that created the stuckness in the first place.

From a Law of Attraction and mindset perspective, this is often the point where old fear-based structures are dissolving. Survival patterns. Outdated identities. Ways of operating that once kept you safe, but now limit how much you can receive.

Healing creates a clearing

Until that clearing happens, the next level can’t land in a way that’s sustainable.

This “in-between” phase, where the old has gone and the new hasn’t fully arrived, can feel unsettling. But it’s also where the most important shifts take place. It’s where manifestation moves from effort and force into alignment, trust, and nervous-system safety.

I explore this whole process in much more depth in Episode 139 of The Salarah K Starre Podcast, including:

• Why things often fall apart right before they align

• The difference between manifesting from survival and manifesting from alignment

• How to move through recalibration without bypassing your emotions

• Why this phase is often a sign of growth, not failure

If you’re currently in a season where life feels upside down, this episode will help you understand what’s really going on, and why it may be preparing you for something far more aligned than you can see right now.

🎧 You can listen to Episode 139 HERE or wherever you get your podcasts.

If you take nothing else from this, let it be this:
Nothing has gone wrong. You’re not behind. You’re learning how to hold more, with more awareness, more alignment, and more trust.

Thanks for being here, Love Salarah xx